When I look into your eyes
It's like watching the night sky
Or a beautiful sunrise
So much they hold
And just like them old stars
I see that you've come so far
To be right where you are
How old is your soul?

I won't give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I'm giving you all my love
I'm still looking up

And when you're needing your space
To do some navigating
I'll be here patiently waiting
To see what you find

'Cause even the stars they burn
Some even fall to the earth
We got a lot to learn
God knows we're worth it
No I won't give up

I don't wanna be someone who walks away so easily
I'm here to stay and make the difference that I can make
Our differences they do a lot to teach us how to use
The tools, the skills we've got yeah we got a lot at stake
And in the end, you're still my friend at least we didn't tend
For us to work we didn't break, we didn't burn
We had to learn how to bend without the world caving in
I had to learn what I got, and what I'm not
And who I am

I won't give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I'm giving you all my love
I'm still looking up

So easy is our life
What's mine is yours and yours mine
Hardly do we ever fight
We'd rather be kind

I won't give up on us
Even if the skies get dark
I'm healing this broken heart
And I know I'm worth it

I won't give up on us
God knows I'm tough, I am love
We got a lot to learn
God knows we're worth it

No I won't give up on us
God knows I've had enough
We got a lot to learn
And we're, and we're worth it

No I won't give up
No I won't give up


[ Lyrics from Jason Mraz - I won't give up - ]

Sebuah kapal kehidupan terus berjalan

Musuh teman sahabat berdiam dan berganti

Mencoba berjalan menuju gemilang

Kemudian tersungkur ke dalam tumpukan tai

Untuk apa dihargai jika hanya bisa mencaci


Berdiam seorang diri

Mencoba bertarung

Mencoba bergulat

Kemudian tersungkur ke dalam tumpukan tai

Untuk apa dihargai jika hanya bisa mencaci


Kebaikan datang menghampiri

Mencoba mengetahui

Mencoba membenahi

Kemudian dilempar dan tersungkur ke dalam tumpukan tumpukan tai

Untuk apa dihargai jika hanya bisa mencaci


Berjalan

Berlari

Sesekali berhenti

Kemudian tersungkur ke dalam tumpukan tai

Untuk apa dihargai jika hanya bisa mencaci


Melihat ke atas

Menggapai gemerlap

Bintang enggan membalas

Kemudian tersungkur ke dalam tumpukan tai

Untuk apa dihargai jika hanya bisa mencaci


Maaf

Maaf

Maaf

Pertama-tama saya meminta maaf jika ternyata saya kembali menorehkan sebuah tulisan disini...

Sebenarnya sudah cukup lama sejak kali terakhir saya menuliskan sesuatu di blog ini..namun seiring waktu berjalan, ternyata yang namanya pembelajaran dan pengalaman tidak akan pernah berhenti dan menghampiri hidup kita...

Dan sepertinya saya memutuskan untuk kembali menulis di blog ini..

Salam,
pm23

Momentum

Kadang kala, semesta dunia mendukung kita untuk meraihnya. Semua seakan-akan berjalan dengan baik, dan sepertinya tidak akan mungkin terintervensi oleh tetek bengek permasalahan teknikal. Bahkan, kalau ada yang membaca tulisan saya ini, dan dia orang hukum atau minimal orang akdemisi, sudah habis saya karena tidak menggunakan ejaan bukan cuma baik tapi juga benar. Intervensi. Ya, seperti itu tadi. Entah kenapa, selalu saja ada hal kecil yang dapat dipermasalahkan. Kecil, namun berdampak sistemik. Halah.
Blog ini, meskipun sepertinya akan berakhir, sebenarnya digunakan untuk berbagi. Pada waktu blog ini dibuat, seakan-akan, ketika itu, semesta dunia mendukung kami untuk membuat blog ini. Tempat dimana fase pencarian jati diri itu di bagi ke semua orang, dengan harapan pengalaman yang kami tuangkan dalam tulisan menjadi -sedikit banyak- kesamaan yang kita punya. Sekarang?
Mungkin tempat kami berkisah bukan lagi disini. Mungkin. Tapi apa salah jika kami berbagi? Tidak. Ada yang ingin berbagi? Ada yang ingin berkonsultasi? Lihat saja disini, mari kita berbagi.
Sementara untuk kami? Kami punya tempat masing-masing.
Momentum kami sudah hampir berakhir untuk tidak menjadi dewasa, meski setiap kita punya sisi kekanakan.

Terakhir

Terlalu banyak hal yang sudah saya tuliskan disini..

Terlalu banyak saya mencoba berperan sebagai seseorang yang mengetahui semuanya..

Terlalu sering saya mencoba untuk membantu berbagi pemikiran..

Namun ternyata tidak banyak yang sebenarnya berguna..

Ini akan menjaadi tulisan terakir saya di blog ini..

Saya merasa saya sudah cukup mencoba berbagi..

Bukan berarti tidak mau lagi untuk berbagi..

Namun yang saya sadari bahwa saya bukanlah siapa-siapa..

Yang saya sadari bahwa saya hanyalah seorang pemuda yang sedang mencari ilmu jauh dari tanah air..Mencoba mencari hidup baru..

Saya bukanlah seorang pemuda yang bisa diandalkan...Saya hanya seorang manusia biasa tanpa ada sesuatu yang spesial..

Kepada teman, kawan, lawan, musuh, sahabat, dan orang asing yang mungkin pernah mau mengenal saya..Atau paling tidak, pernah mendengar nama saya..Saya hanya ingin mengucapkan terimakasih telah pernah hadir di dalam hidup saya...Terimakasih telah memberi pengalaman dan pembelajaran untuk saya...

Dan saya juga ingin meminta maaf kepada semua orang yang ada di dalam blog ini..Saya meminta maaf jika saya pernah menyakiti kalian..Baik perasaan maupun secara fisik...Namun saya sadar, bahwa bukan kalian yang bersalah...Tapi memang hanya saya yang terlalu takut untuk megambil keputusan...

Sekali lagi terimakasih dan maaf...

Kenapa harus bohong saat bisa jujur...Kenapa harus jujur kalau itu hanya akan menyakiti orang lain...

Dunia = panggung sandiwara

Seperti sebuah lagu dari alm. Nike Ardila : "Dunia ini panggung sandiwara"

Kita hidup di dunia dengan peran kita masing-masing, dan saya yakin hanya segelintir orang yang sudah benar2 tahu akan dirinya masing2..Dan sisanya masih mencari-cari jati diri dengan berperan sesuai kebutuhan..

Setiap orang pasti ingin menjadi seseorang mempunyai peran sebagai protagonis di dalam hidup...Nyaris tidak ada yang berpikir untuk menjadi peran antagonis..

Tapi apakah mungkin seseorang dianggap sebagai protagonis jika tidak ada tokoh antagonis di dalamnya? Apakah salah apabila kita berperan sebagai antagonis?

Bukankah itu semua hanyalah peran? Dan setiap hal yang dilakukan seseorang pasti mempunyai alasan di belakangnya...

Saya yakin istilah "serigala berbulu domba" pasti sudah tidak asing lagi..Walaupun seseorang ingin menjadi "domba berbulu domba"..hahaha...

Tapi toh tidak ada salahnya jika kita harus menjadi "domba berbulu serigala"...

Saya harap kita bisa mengenal satu sama lain lebih jauh sehingga bisa mengetahui alasan semua hal bisa terjadi..

Which one are you

You'll never know someone better if you don't want to..

You'll never know the reasons if you don't want to..

It's impossible to know someone better if you just sit down and watch from distance..

Have you know enough already? Or you've just judged by the cover?

It has been a while since the last time I felt like this..

What should I do? Where should I go?

I hope you could give me the answer. And I could go further and hopefully better

I'll wait

Merampok

N : Lo mau memberitahu bahaya perampokan dengan menjadi perampoknya ya?

M: Ya bisa dibilang gitu sih

N: Tapi kenapa harus lo yang jadi perampoknya?

M: Emang kenapa?

N: Kontra intuitive aja, dmana kebanyakan orang ga mau jadi perampok

Menarik memang..Kenapa harus jadi perampok untuk memberitahu bahaya perampokan..Mungkin itu adalah cara yang bisa membuahkan hasil terbaik, walaupun mungkin sama sekali tidak bermoral..

Untuk menjadi perampok bukan berarti tanpa mengetahui konsekuensi yang bisa terjadi..Paling tidak konsekuensi terbesar pasti sudah ada di bayangan..

Tetapi apakah mungkin seorang perampok akan dinilai lebih baik jika dilihat dari alasan mengapa dia merampok..Atau tetap saja seorang perampok ya perampok..Nothing less, nothing more..That's it..

"She would want to see me. If I told her how I feel, she'd just miss me even more. After all, I'm the guy who's been breaking her heart by making her wait an eternity. Even though I'm always by her side. I don't want to see her cry anymore. Even if it means that I no longer have place in her heart. Seems pretty immature of me, doesn't it?"

-------Shinichi, Detective Conan, Episode 270. The Forgotten Memento from the Crime. (Part 2)-------

"Don't you think it's better to be extremely happy for a short while,even if you lose,than just to be okay for your whole life?"

--- Audrey Niffenegger (The Time Traveler’s Wife)---

Bukan untukku, melainkan untuknya

Sebuah keputusan harus diambil di saat itu

Tanpa ada yang tau pasti alasan dibaliknya, kecuali diri saya sendiri

Namun,

Bukan untukku, melainkan untuknya

Cukup bodoh memang

Namun saya sama sekali tidak menyesal

Karena itu

Bukan untukku melainkan untuknya

Benci, jijik, atau muak mungkin cukup pas untuk menggambarkan apa yang ada di pikirannya mengenai saya

Dan saya pun sudah tau akan konsekuensi tersebut

Saya tidak peduli dengan pandangannya kepada saya

Bukan untukku, melainkan untuknya

Mungkin dia tidak mau lagi berhubungan dengan saya

Cukup disayangkan memang hubungan kekerabatan harus dihentikan begitu saja

Tapi itu memang salah satu konsekuensi yang akan saya dapatkan

Bukan untukku, melainkan untuknya

Maaf jika saya harus melakukan sesuatu yang tidak bermoral

Sekian dan terimakasih

Selamat Jalan Satya Santika

Seorang wanita telah pergi

Tanpa pamit tanpa permisi

Seorang teman telah pergi

Jauh dan tak kan kembali

Seorang anak telah pergi

Tanpa pesan ditinggalkan

Seorang keluarga telah pergi

Meninggalkan kita disini

Sunyi Sepi

Ingin rasanya kembali tertawa dan bercanda bersamanya

Namun kini hanya tinggal angan belaka

Kenapa harus secepat ini kau pergi

Kenapa harus meninggalkan kami lagi

dan kutahu kali ini kau tak kan kembali

Selamat Jalan Satya Santika

Semoga jiwamu tenang di alam sana

Bro Code!

I know my fellow would love this.. I got it from another blog, and i want to share it as my start-to-write-again :D

1) Bros before hoes. The bond between two men is stronger than that between a man and a woman because on an average, men are stronger than women. That’s just science.

2) A bro is always entitled to do something stupid as long as the rest of his bros are all doing it. For example... If only one Spanish dude were to run down the street in front of a bunch of angry bulls, people would have been like "Dude, come on!!". The license to be stupid is why we have bros in the first place.

3) If a bro gets a dog, it must be at least as tall as his knee when full grown. Corollary to this states, naming a lap-dog after a pro-wrestler or a character from a Steve McLain movie does not absolve a bro from this article.

4) A bro never divulges the existence of the bro code to a woman. It is a sacred document not to be shared with chicks for any reason.

NOTE: If you are a woman reading this, first let me apologize: it was never my intention for this book to contain so much math. Second, I urge you to look at this document for what it is a piece of fiction meant to entertain a broad audience through the prism of stereotypical gender differences. I mean, sometimes it really is like we're from different planets! Clearly, no real person would actually believe or adhere to the vulgar rules contained within.* Those boots are adorable, b-t-dub.

5) Whether he cares about sports or not, a bro cares about sports.

6) A bro shall not lollygag if he must get naked in front of other bros in a gym locker room. Corollary to this states, if a bro gets naked in the locker room, all other bros shall pretend that nothing out of the ordinary is happening while at the same time immediately averting their eyes. When in doubt, remember the old adage. If your towel drops to the ground, so should your eyes.

7) A bro never sends a greeting card to another bro. There are no sentiments between two bros that cannot be articulated through the convenience and emotional distance of electronic mail.

8) A bro never admits he can’t drive stick even after an accident.

9) Should a bro lose a body part due to an accident or illness, his fellow bros will not make lame jokes such as "Gimme three" or "Wow!! Quitting your job like that really took a lot of ball!!" It’s still a hi-five and that bro still has a lot of balls, metaphorically speaking of course.

10) A bro will drop whatever he is doing and rush to help his bro dump a chick. It’s normal for a bro to get confused and disoriented when dumping a chick. For some reason he is worried she will become agitated or even violent after he calmly explains his desire to hook up with her friends. This is when a bro most needs his bro to remind him that there are plenty of chick in the ocean and that a breakup need not be hazardous, stressful or even time- consuming. How to dump an chick in 6 words or less...

- “Maybe try a side salad instead."

- “Cute!! You ‘re growing a moustache too!!"

- “She looks like a younger you!!"

- “I will finance a boob job."

- “Sorry I threw your shoes out."

- “Your sister let me do that!!"

11) A bro may ask another bro to help him move. But only after first disclosing an honest estimate on both time commitment and number of large furniture pieces. If the bro has vastly underestimated, either his bros retain the right to leave his possessions where they are, in most cases stuck in a door-way.

12) Bros do not share dessert.

13) All bros shall dub one of their bros his wingman.

14) If a chick enquires about another bros’ sexual history, a bro shall honor the Br-ode of silence and play dumb. Better to have women think that all men are stupid than to tell the truth.

15) A bro never dances with his hands above his head.

16) A bro should be able to recite anytime the following reigning champions: Super bowl, World series and Play Mate of the year.

17) A bro shall be kind and courteous to his co-workers unless they are beneath him on the pyramid of screaming. America was built on the backs of men and women who were yelled at to work harder and the tradition has been screamed to generation from generation. But you just can’t scream at anybody. You can only scream beneath you.

18) If a bro spearheads a beer run at a party, he is entitled to any excess monies accrued after canvassing the group.

Note: To avoid confrontation it’s a good idea to jettison the receipt before returning to the party.

19) A bro shall not sleep with another bro’s sister. However, a bro shall not get angry if another bro says "Dude, your sister’s hot!!". Corollary, it is probably better for everyone if bros just hide pictures of their sisters when other bros are coming over. When in doubt refer to the check list for bro-proofing your home.

20) A Bro respects his Bros in the military because they've selflessly chosen to defend the nation, but more to the point, because they can kick his ass six ways to Sunday.

21) A Bro never shares observations about another Bro's smoking-hot girlfriend. Even if the Bro with the hot girlfriend attempts to bait the Bro by saying "she's smoking-hot, huh?" a Bro shall remain silent, because in this situation, he's the only one who should be baiting.

22) There is no law that prohibits a woman from being a Bro. Women make excellent bros because they can translate and navigate the confusing and contradictory whims that comprise the chick code (Chick do have the chick code!!).

23) When flipping through TV channels with his Bros, a Bro is not allowed to skip past a program featuring boobs. This includes but is not limited to, exercise shows, women's athletics, and on some occasions surgery programs.

24) When wearing a baseball cap, a Bro may position the brim at either 12 or 6 o'clock. All other angles are reserved for rappers and the handicapped.

25) A Bro doesn't let another Bro get a tattoo, particularly a tattoo of a girls name. The average relationship between a man and a woman lasts 83 days. The relationship between man and his skin lasts a life time and must be nurtured because the skin is the largest and second most important organ a man has.

26) Unless he has children, a Bro shall not wear his cell phone on a belt clip.

27) A Bro never removes his shirt in front of other Bros, unless at a resort pool or the beach. Corollary, a bro with a coat of fur on his back, keeps that thing covered at all times even at resort, pool or beach.

28) A Bro will, in a timely manner, alert his Bro to the existence of a fight between two fellow human beings of the female variety. If an informed bro is unable to witness the fight first hand, a spotter bro is responsible for documenting and relating details of girl fight via pictures, video or, barring any other reasonable method, interpretive dance and/or pantomime.

29) If two Bros decide to catch a movie together, they may not attend a screening that begins after 4:40pm. Also despite the cost savings, they shall not split a tub of popcorn, choosing instead to procure individual bags.

30) A Bro doesn't comparison shop.

31) When on the prowl, a Bro hits on the hottest chick first because you just never know.

32) A Bro doesn't allow another Bro to get married until he's at least thirty.

33) When in a public restroom, a Bro (1) stares straight ahead when using the urinal; (2) makes the obligatory comment, "What is this, a chicks' restroom?" if there are more than two dudes waiting to pee; and (3) attempts to basketball toss his used paper towel into the trash can like a basketball...rebounding is optional.

34) Bros cannot make eye-contact during a Devil's Three-way.

35) A Bro never rents a chick flick.

36) DD: When questioned in the company of women, a Bro always decries fake breasts.

37) A Bro is under no obligation to open a door for anyone. If women insist on having their own professional basketball league, then they can open their own doors. Honestly they're not that heavy.

38) Even in a fight to the death a Bro never punches another Bro in the groin.

39) When a Bro gets a chicks number, he waits at least ninety-six hours before calling her. The reason is Bro-flation. An unreasonable increase in female expectations about how bros should act. You call a woman the next day, she tells her friends that you called the next day, and soon enough, women everywhere will expect guys to call them the next day. Before you know it, bros the world over will find themselves trapped in relationships and all because you couldn’t wait 96 little hours.

40) Should a Bro become stricken with engagement, his Bros shall stage an intervention and attempt to heal him. This is more commonly known as "a bachelor party."

41) A Bro never cries. Exceptions- Watching Field of Dreams, ET or a sports legend retire (only first time he retires).

42) Upon greeting another Bro, a Bro may engage in a high five, fist bump, or a Bro hug, but never a full embrace.

43) A Bro loves his country, unless that country isn't America.

44) A Bro never applies sunscreen to another Bro. Exceptions – If the Bros are within 7 degrees latitude of the equator.

45) A Bro never wears jeans to a strip club. Reasons – a) Cloth pockets are roomier and elastic allowing for a thicker wad of cash. b) Denim clashes with the club’s leopard, zebra or other safari animal motif. c) One word, two syllables, three hours in the ER – Zipper. d) It’s a performance and deserves respect. e) You don’t feel it as much on your… you know what..

46) If a Bro is seated next to some dude who's stuck in the middle seat on an airplane, he shall yield him all of their shared armrest, unless the dude has (a) taken his shoes off, (b) is snoring, (c) makes the Bro get up more than once to use the lavatory, or (d) purchased headphones after they announced the in-flight movie is 27 Dresses. See Article 35.

47) A Bro never wears pink. Not even in Europe.

48) A Bro never publicly reveals how many chicks he's banged. Corollary – A bro also never reveals how many chicks another Bro has banged.

49) When asked, "Do you need some help?" a Bro shall automatically respond, "I got it," whether or not he's actually got it. Exceptions – Carrying an expensive TV, parallel parking an expensive car and loading an expensive TV on to an expensive car.

50) If a Bro should accidentally strike another Bro's undercarriage with his arm while walking, both Bros silently agree to continue on as if it never happened.

51) A Bro checks out another Bro's blind date and reports back with a thumbs-up or thumbs-down.

52) A Bro is not required to remember another Bros birthday, though a phone call every not and again probably wouldn't kill him.

53) Even in a drought, a Bro flushes twice.

54) A Bro is required to go out with his Bros on St. Paddy's Day and other official Bro holidays, including Halloween, New Year's Eve, and Desperation Day (February 13th)

55) Even in an emergency that requires a tourniquet, a Bro never borrows from or lends clothes to another Bro.

56) A Bro is required to alert another Bro if the Bro/chick Ration at a party falls below 1:1. However, to avoid Bro-flation, a Bro is only allowed to alert one Bro. Further, a Bro may not speculate on the anticipated Bro/Chick Ratio of a party or venue without first disclosing the present-time observed ratio.

57) A Bro never reveals the score of a sporting event to another Bro unless that Bro has thrice confirmed he wants to hear it.

58) A Bro doesn't grow a moustache. Exception – While shaving it’s more than ok for a Bro to keep the whiskers around his mouth till the end so that he might temporarily experiment with different facial hair configurations.

59) A Bro must always post bail for another Bro, unless it's out of state or, like, crazy expensive (Crazy expensive bail >(years you've been bros) x $100)

60) A Bro shall honor they father and mother, for they were once Bro and chick. However, a Bro never thinks of them in that capacity.

61) If a Bro for whatever reason becomes aware of another Bro's anniversary with a chick, he shall endeavor to make that information available to his Bro, regardless of whether he thinks his Bro already knows.

62) In the event that two Bros lock on to the same target, the Bro who calls dibs first has dibs. If both call dibs at the same time, the Bro who counts aloud to ten the fastest has dibs. If both arrive at the number ten at the same time, the Bro who bought the last round of drinks has dibs. If they haven't purchased drinks yet, the taller of the two Bros has dibs. If they're the same height, the Bro with the longer dry spell has dibs. Should the dry spells be of equal length, a game of discreet Broshambo* shall determine dibs, provided the chick is still there. *Rock, paper, scissors for Bros.

63) A Bro will make any and all efforts to provide his Bro with protection. Bro-tection forms a central pillar or, more accurately, a plastic coating for the central pillar of the Bro way of life.

While not legally or physically responsible for any repercussions of failing to provide protection, it’s not uncommon for a Bro to experience pangs of guilt after a fellow Bro becomes infected with a disease. Some of which, such as children, can last an entire lifetime.

64) A Bro must provide his Bro with a ticket to an event if said event involves the second Bro's favorite sports team in a playoff scenario.

65) A Bro must always reciprocate a round of drinks among Bros. Exception - A Bro is off the hook if a Bro orders a drink with an umbrella in it.

66) If a Bro suffers pain due to the permanent dissolution of a relationship with a lady friend, a Bro shall offer nothing more than a 'that sucks, man' and copious quantities of beer. A Bro will also refrain from pejorative commentary - deserved or not - regarding said lady friend for a period of three months, when the requisite BACKSLIDE WINDOW has closed.

67) Should a Bro pick up a guitar at a party and commence playing, another Bro shall point out that he is a tool.

68) If a Bro be on hot streak, another Bro will do everything possible to ensure its longevity, even if that includes jeopardizing his own records, the missing of work, or, if necessary, generating a realistic fear that the end of the world is imminent. Exception - Dry spell trumps hot streak.

69) Duh.

70) A Bro will drive another Bro to the airport or pick him up, but never both for the same trip. He is not expected to be on time, help with luggage, or inquire about his Bro's trip or general well-being.

71) As a courtesy to Bros the world over, a Bro never brings more than two other Bros to a party. Three Bros are cool - Three amigos, Three musketeers, The police, Apollo 13 Astronauts and the Three stooges. Four Bros are lame – Mount Rushmore, The Fantastic Four, The Monkeys and Michael Jordan’s team mates.

72) A Bro never spell-checks.

73) When a group of Bros are in a restaurant, each shall engage in the time-honored ritual of jockeying to pay the bill, regardless of affordability. When the group ultimately decides to divide the check, each Bro shall act upset rather that enormously relieved.

74) At a red light, a Bro inches as close as possible to the rear bumper of the car in front of him, and then immediately honks his horn when the light turns green. That way if another Bro is several cars behind, he'll have a better chance of making it through the intersection before the light turns red again.

75) A Bro automatically enhances another Bro's job description when introducing him to a chick. Chicks like to stretch the truth about their age, promiscuity and sometimes, with the help of extensive make-up and structural lingerie, even their body shape. As such, it is a fair game for Bros to exaggerate reality when asked about their Bro-fession.

76) If a Bro is on the phone with a chick while in front of his Bros and, for whatever reason, desires to say "I love you" he shall first excuse himself from the room or employ a subsonic barry white-esque tone.

77) Bros don't cuddle.

78) A Bro shall never rack jack his wingman. Rack jack is to steal your wingman’s chick. To commemorate and solidify the unbreakable bond between the Bro and his wingman, it is recommended that before going out, each face the other, place his left hand on the Bro code, raise his right hand, and recite the wingman pledge.

79) At a wedding, Bros shall reluctantly trudge out for the garter toss and feign interest for the benefit of the chicks present. Whichever Bro gets stuck with the garter shall light-heartedly pretend he's not mortified at the thought of being the next one to drop before scurrying to the bar for a very stiff drink and/or shots.

80) A bro shall make every effort to aid another Bro in riding the tricycle (engaging in a threesome), short of completing the tricycle himself. The total age of all the three should be less than 83.

81) A Bro leaves the toilet seat up for his Bros.

82) If two Bros get into a heated argument over something and one says something out of line, the other shall not expect him to take it back or apologize to make amends. That's inhuman.

83) A Bro shall, at all costs, honor the Platinum Rule: Never, ever, ever, ever " love" thy neighbor. In particular, a Bro shall never mix it up romantically with a co-worker. Exceptions – Coworker is an 8 or better, you are superior to the coworker, coworker dresses a little slutty, company recently sued for sexual harassment, someone makes a bet that you can’t, you are switching floors soon, you and coworker get stuck in elevator, coworker soon to be fired, coworker hits on you, coworker going through divorce, coworker not offended when you accidently email provocative self pictures to office.

84) Bro shall stop whatever he's doing and watch Die Hard if it's on TV. Corollary – Also the Shawshank Redemption, Top Gun, first half of Full Metal Jacket.

85) If a Bro buys a new car, he is required to pop the hood when showing it off to his Bros. Corollary – His Bros are required to whistle, even if they don’t know what they are whistling at.

86) When a Bro meets a chick he shall endeavor to find out where she fits on the Hot/Crazy Scale before pursuing her.

87) A Bro never questions another Bro's stated golf score, maximum bench press, or height. He can however, ask the Bro to prove it, traditionally in the form of a wager.


88) If a Bro, for whatever reason must drive another Bro's car, he shall not adjust the pre-programmed radio stations, the mirrors, or the seat position, even if this last requirement results in the Bro trying to drive the vehicle as a giant praying mantis would.

89) A Bro shall always say yes in support of a Bro.

90) A Bro shows up at another Bro's party with at least one more unit of alcohol than he plans to drink. So if a Bro plans on chugging a six pack, he shall bring a six pack plus at least one can of beer. If the party sucks and/or there are too many dudes, the Bro is entitled to leave with his alcohol, though etiquette dictates he should wait until nobody is looking.

91) If a group of Bros suspect that their Bro is trying to give himself a nickname, they shall rally to call him by an adjacent yet more demeaning nickname.

92) A Bro keeps his booty calls at a safe distance.

93) Bros don't speak French to each other.

94) If a Bro is in the bathroom and runs out of toilet paper, another Bro may toss him a new roll, but at no point may their hands touch or the door open more than 30 degrees from fully closed.

95) A Bro shall alert another Bro to the presence of a chesty woman regardless of whether or not he knows the Bro. Such alerts may not be administered verbally. (The shoes tap, The eye redirect, The swift shin kick *D cups and up only, please*)

96) Bros shall go camping once a year, or at least attempt to start a fire.

97) Where a Bro went to college is going to kick his Bro's college's ass all over the field this weekend.

98) A Bro never lies to his Bros about the hotness of chicks at a given social venue or event.

99) A Bro never asks for directions when lost. Exception: A Bro may as for directions for a hot chick who seems to know the area. A Bro may ask for directions from a hot chick even if she also appears lost. A Bro may ask for directions from a hot chick even if he himself is not lost at all.

100) When pulling up to a stoplight, a Bro lowers his window so that all might enjoy his music selection. Corollary: If there happens to be a hot chick driving the car next to the Bro, the Bro shall pull his sunglasses down to get a better look. If he's not wearing his sunglasses, he will first put them on, then pull them down to get a better look.

101) If a Bro asks another Bro to keep a secret, he shall take that secret to his grave and beyond if the Bro discovers there is indeed life after death. This is what makes them Bros, not chicks.

102) A Bro shall take great care in selecting and training his wingman.

103) A Bro never wears socks with sandals. He commits to one cohesive footgear plan and sticks with it.

104) The mom of a Bro is always off-limits. But the stepmom of a Bro is fair game if she initiates and /or is wearing at least one article of leopard print clothing...provided she looks good in it...but not if she smokes menthol cigarettes.

105) If a Bro is not invited to another Bro's wedding, he doesn't make a big deal out of it, even if, let's face it, he was kind of responsible for setting up the couple and had already picked out the perfect wedding gift and everything. It’s cool. No big whoop.

106) Given an option on quantity when ordering a beer with his Bros, a Bro always selects the largest size available or shall never hear the end of it that night.

107) A Bro never leaves another Bro hanging.

108) If a Bro forgets a guy's name he may call him "brah","dude", or "man" but never "Bro".

109) When Bros attend a sporting event and see themselves on the JumboTron, they shall purse their lips and flex their biceps while informing the crowd that their team is number one, despite any objective rankings to the contrary.

110) If a Bro is hitting it off with a chick, his Bro shall do anything within his means to ensure the desired outcome.

111) If a Bro discovers another Bro has forgotten to sign out of his email the Bro will sign out for him, but only after first sending a few angry emails to random contacts and then deleting all sent messages.

112) A Bro doesn't sing along to music in a bar. Exception: A Bro may participate in karaoke. Exception to exception: No chick songs.

113) A Bro abides by the accepted age-difference formula when pursuing a young chick
Acceptable age difference formula: Chick's age = (Guy's age divided by 2) + 7

114) If a Bro must crash on his Bro's couch for an extended period of time, he shall offer to split the cost of toilet paper and the cable bill if said period exceeds two weeks. If he stays longer than a month, he shall offer to contribute some rent. If he stays longer than two months, he shall steam clean the couch or have it incinerated, whichever is more applicable.

115) A "clothing optional" beach doesn't really mean "clothing optional" for Bros.

116) A Bro shall not kill another Bro or that Bros’ chances to score with a chick.

117) A Bro never willingly relinquishes possession of a remote control. If another Bro desires a channel change, he may verbally request one or engage in the fools errand of getting up to manually change the channel. Corollary – It is fully expected that a Bro will try anything to gain possession of the remote upto and including an attempt to flatulate his Bro out of the room.

118) When a Bro is with his Bros, he is not a vegetarian.

119) When three Bros must share the backseat of a car, it is unacceptable for any Bro to put his arm around another Bro to increase space. Likewise, it is unacceptable for two Bros to share a motorcycle, unless said motorcycle is equipped with a sidecar...a Brotorcycle.

120) A Bro always calls another Bro by his last name.

121) Even if he's never skied before, a Bro doesn't trifle with the bunny slope. Corollary – If a Bro experiences a catastrophic wipeout, he can always blame his bindings or the conditions.

122) A Bro is always psyched. Always.

123) Two Bros shall maintain at least a three-foot radius between them while dancing on the same floor, even when reenacting the knife fight from "Beat It" which, I guess, two Bros shouldn't do anyway, or at least not very often.

124) If a Bro should shoot an air ball, strike out while playing softball, or throw a gutter ball while Browling, he is required to make some sort of excuse for himself.

125) If a Bro is driving ahead of another Bro in a Bro Train, he is required to attempt to lose him in traffic as a funny joke.

126) In a scenario where two or more Bros are watching entertainment of the adult variety, one Bro is forbidden from intentionally or unintentionally touching another Bro in ANY capacity. This may include but is not limited to: the high five, the fist bump or the congratulatory gluteal pat. Winking is also kind of a no-no.

127) A Bro will always help another Bro reconstruct the events from the previous night, unless those events entail hooking up with an ugly chick or the Bro repeatedly saying "I love you, man" to all his Bros.

128) A Bro never wears two articles of clothing at the same time that bear the same school name, vacation destination or sports team. Even in a laundry emergency, its preferred that a Bro go out half naked rather than violate this code...half naked from the waist up, naturally.

129) If a Bro lends another Bro a DVD, video game, or piece of lawn machinery, he shall not expect to ever get it back, unless his Bro happens to die and bequeath it back to him.

130) If a Bro learns another Bro has been in a traffic accident, he must first ask what type of car he collided with and whether it got totaled before asking if his Bro is okay.

131) While a Bro is not expected to know exactly how to change a tire, he is required to at least drag out the jack and stare at the flat for a while. If he needs to consult the car's ownership manual to locate the jack, he shall do so from inside the car, where he is not visible to passersby and where he can discreetly call a tow truck, after which it is recommended that he hide the  jack by the side of the road so he'll have a legitimate excuse when the tow truck arrives.

132) If a Bro decides to let all of his Bros down and get married, he is required to invite them to the wedding, even if this directly violates the wishes of his fiancée and results in a "no sex" penalty or whatever lame domestic punishment couples might employ.

133) A Bro only claims a fart after first accusing at least one other Bro. Exception – Pull my finger.

134) A Bro is entitled to use a woman as his wingman.

135) If a scenario arises in which a Bro has promised two of his Bros permanent shotgun, one of the following shall determine the copilot: (a) foot race to the car, (b) silent auction or in the case of a road trip exceeding 450 miles, (c) a no-holds-barred cage match to the death.

136) When interrogated by a girlfriend about a bachelor party, a Bro shall offer nothing more than a disinterested "It was okay". A Bro can never bring a camera back from a bachelor party. The only memento a Bro is allowed to bring back is something that can be destroyed by penicillin.

137) When hosting, a Bro orders enough pizza for all his Bros.

138) A real Bro doesn't laugh when a guy gets hit in the groin. Exception: Unless he doesn't know the guy.

139) Regardless of veracity, a Bro never admits familiarity with a Broadway show or musical, despite the fact that, yes, "Broadway" begins with "Bro".

140) A Bro reserves the right to simply walk away during the first five minutes of a date. (Lemon Law).

141) A Bro can only get a manicure if (a) he's trying to sleep with the hot Asian woman performing the manicure, or (b) its been longer than a month since his last manicure. Its called the Bro Code, not the slob Code.

142) A Bro shall seek no revenge if he passes out around his Bros and wakes up to find marker all over his face.

143) When executing a high five a Bro is forbidden from intertwining fingers or grasping his Bro's hand.

144) It is unacceptable for two Bros to share a hotel bed without first exhausting all couch, cot, and pillows-on-floor combinations. If it's still unavoidable, they shall prevent any incidental spoonage by arm wresting to determine who sleeps under the covers. Once decided each Bro shall don as many lower layers as possible before silently fist bumping the other good night.

145) A Bro is never offended if another Bro fails to return a phone call, text or email in a timely fashion.

146) A Bro refrains from using too much detail when relating sexual exploits to his Bros. Providing graphic detail unconsciously forces your Bros to picture you naked and there is no coming back from that.

147) If a Bro sees another Bro get into a fight, he immediately has his Bro's back. Exception: If his Bro has picked a fight with a scary looking guy. If this is the third fight (or more) his Bro has gotten into that week. If the Bro has a note from a physician excusing him from having anybody's back.

148) A Bro doesn't listen to chick music...in front of other Bros. When alone, a Bro may listen to, say, a Sarah McLachlan album or two, but only to gain valuable insights into the female psyches, not because he finds her melodies tragically haunting yet curiously uplifting at the same time.

149) A Bro pretends to understand and enjoy cigars.

150) No sex with you Bro's ex. It is never ever permissible for a Bro to sleep with his Bro’s ex. Violating this code is worse than killing a Bro.



Please do enjoy, "The Bro Code" written by Barney Stinson of the How I Met Your Mother fame. For those who are unaware of the Bro Code, let me give you a brief idea. The Bro Code is the final authority on acceptable behavior between and among dudes. It is , of course, a fictional Code put forward by some fictional Barnabas Stinson in 1777. It is probably a hilarious take on the Declaration of Independence. Stinson uses language like a scalpel, digging though our deepest emotional tissue to expose the very core of the human psyche. However, women might find it to be disgusting, disparaging and stomach churning. Let me make one thing clear that this post in no way expresses my own views and is just a reproduction of all the articles in the original book.

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Solo Flight

Saat anda membaca judul post ini, apa yang ada di pikiran anda?Mungkinkah terbang dengan pesawat ke suatu tempat?

Bukan..Bukan itu..solo flight yang saya maksud disini adalah perjalanan saya seorang diri keluar dari kota Tilburg untuk bertualang..

Saya memang seseorang yang bisa dikatakan sangat suka bertualang..Kalo bahasa kerennya sih saya ini berjiwa "adventurous"..

Perjalanan kali ini menuju sebuah daerah bernama ZaanseSchans..Sebuah tempat di utara Amsterdam..

Mengapa saya memutuskan untuk bertualang sendiri kesana? Well, awalnya saya berencana untuk bertualang ke maastricht..Namun, jika saya memutuskan untuk pergi ke Maastricht tanpa berhenti sejenak di Roermond sepertinya sangat sayang..Lalu Kenapa saya tidak sekalian saya ke roermond? Simple, untuk bulan ini saya tidak menyisihkan finansial saya untuk berbelanja..Jadi saya urungkan niat saya tersebut..

Kemudian saya berpikir untuk mencari tempat dimana terdapat banyak windmills..Setelah melakukan pencarian lewat google, ditemukanlah satu daerah bernama ZaanseSchans..Sebelah utara Amsterdam, dan hanya tinggal menyebrangi sebuah jembatan dari Zaandam untuk sampai ke tempat tersebut..

Sesampainya di ZaanseSchans, saya hanya menyadari satu hal bahwa daerah ini merupakan salah satu tujuan wisata..Kenapa? Mungkin beberapa foto-foto yang akan saya berikan akan menjelaskan mengapa...

So, just enjoy it..

Kepadamu Bajingan

Hey bajingan

Ya itu kamu

Tak usah berpaling dan bertanya siapa

Hey bajingan

Ya itu kamu

Tak usah berlari dan bersembunyi

Hey bajingan

Ya itu kamu

Tak usah mengancam dan membela diri

Hey bajingan

Ya itu kamu

Tak usah terdiam dan mencari alasan

Hey bajingan

Ya itu kamu

Tak usah merenung dan menutupi kesalahan

Hey bajingan

Ya itu kamu

Tak usah banyak omong tanpa ada isi

Hey bajingan

Ya itu kamu

Bajingan itu adalah dirimu sendiri Mitradi

Surat kepada Bintang

Sebuah rasa terpendam di dada

Kuingin berteriak lantang

Dan terdengar oleh bintang

Sebuah pemikiran berlarian di kepala

Kuingin berlari kencang

Dan berhenti di bawah bintang

Sebuah gejolak datang tanpa aba-aba

Ingin rasanya kuterbang

Dan mendarat tepat diatas bintang

Kutahu dirimu tak bisa berpijar seperti bulan

Kutahu dirimu bukanlah penerang langit malam

Namun kenapa kuharus bersedih dan meradang

Karena kutahu kau adalah milik semua orang

Berdiri

Disaat kumelihatmu

Kutahu kau berbeda

Senyumanmu dan perangaimu

Tak pernah berhenti menghantuiku

Jangan pernah berpikir untuk pergi dari mimpiku

Tanpa dirimu kuhanya bisa melihat ke alam hitam

Jangan jauh dariku

Ku tak kuasa menahan rindu

Kusadari kau bukan milikku

Namun kau pantas mendapat yang lebih baik darinya

Mungkin bukan aku

Dan aku tetap akan selalu disini

Berdiri

Sendiri

Tanpa ada yang menemani

Kenapa harus bersedih

Ini bukanlah sebuah paksaan

Ini adalah pilihan

Tak kan ada penyesalan

Meskipun harus hidup dalam penderitaan

Ku mampu untuk tersenyum

Ku mampu untuk tertawa bercanda

Ku mampu menerima

Jika kau ingin tetap bersamanya

Dan aku tetap akan selalu disini

Berdiri

Sendiri

Tanpa ada yang menemani

Intermezzo

Sesaat termenung tanpa pemikiran

Hanya bisa merasakan kemudian menuliskan

Hah sudahlah jangan banyak pertanyaan

Lakukan saja dan terus berjalan

Toh tidak akan ada yang mempermasalahkan

Ketika pikiran diambil alih oleh perasaan

Pejamkan mata walau hanya sesaat

Namun jangan biarkan tubuh menjadi pucat

Bangkit dan bertarung sekali lagi

Walaupun untuk sesuatu yang tidak pasti

Sebuah Ungkapan Pikiran seorang Mahasiswa

Tidak mudah memang untuk mendapatkan sebuah ilmu..Banyak jalan yang harus ditempuh..Sebagai contoh : untuk masuk ke sebuah sekolah ternama yang (katanya) mempunyai sistem pendidikan yang lebih baik dibanding dengan sekolah lainnya, kita harus berjuang dan bersikeras untuk dapat diterima..Bukan hanya motivasi dari dalam diri sendiri saja yang menjadi musuh, tetapi juga orang lain yang mempunyai tujuan yang sama..

Setelah kita diterima, lalu apa? Apakah selesai perjuangan kita? Sepertinya tidak..Kita akan mempunya target lain yang harus kita kejar, mimpi lain yang harus kita capai..

Saya mahasiswa tahun 3..Berat rasanya untuk menentukan long-term goal.. Banyak dari kita yang sudah memikirkan akan mengambil gelar Master dimana dan sebagainya..Sedangkan saya? Saya hanya bisa memikirkan bagaimana cara saya untuk survive saat ini, untuk bisa mendapat gelar Bachelor saya..

Saya menghadapi ini semua bukan tanpa tekanan..Bisa dibilang saat ini saya harus berjuang keras di bawah bayang-bayang kedua kakak saya..Kenapa?

Kakak tertua saya sudah mendapatkan gelar masternya majoring urban design dari Architecture Association di London sekitar 8 bulan yang lalu..Kakak saya yang kedua baru saja menyelesaikan jenjang pendidikan masternya majoring engineering management dari University of Birmingham 2 bulan yang lalu..Sedangkan saya? Saya masih harus berjibaku dengan gelar bachelor saya..

Kalau kita berbicara mengenai target, saya juga mempunyai target...Namun sayangnya target tersebut tidak bisa saya capai..Dan saya harus merombak ulang semua target yang sudah saya tentukan sebelumnya...

Dan lagi mungkin saya bukan orang yang bisa hidup dengan target..Karena salah satu prinsip hidup saya adalah : "Always prepare for the worst"..Kenapa? Simple, karena saya hanya tidak ingin ketika saya mendapat hasil yang terburuk, saya akan jatuh termenung untuk waktu yang cukup lama..Saya harus bisa bangkit secepatnya karena saya tau bahwa saya telah bersiap untuk itu..

Namun di sisi lain, prinsip tersebut seperti pedang bermata dua..Terkadang saat saya tidak memberikan effort terbaik saya, yang terjadi adalah saya tetap berpikir seperti itu, dan akhirnya berujung seperti memaklumi apa yang terjadi..

Saya tahu yang saya butuhkan adalah motivator..Motivator yang dapat membuat saya memberikan yang terbaik dari diri saya..

Jika cinta, rindu adalah sesuatu yang menyiksa

Itu bukan kata-kata yang saya ucapkan memang, itu adalah kata-kata yang diucapkan seorang sahabat saya yang juga merupakan salah satu member dari blog ini..Namun itu adalah sesuatu yang sudah saya sadari dari lama..Well, at least semenjak saya berangkat untuk menuntut ilmu di Belanda..

Rindu, kangen, Miss you...atau apapun itu yang intinya mengungkapkan bahwa kita sangat ingin bertemu dengannya..Cukup berat untuk diungkapkan..Kenapa?

Anggaplah suatu saat kita berbicara seperti itu kepada seseorang, dan setelah itu apa? Apakah mungkin untuk bertemu? Apakah ada yang akan berubah? Toh cara kita berkounikasi sama saja seperti hari-hari lainnya saat kita tidak mengucapkan kata-kata tersebut..Toh kita juga tidak akan bisa segera bertemu..Lalu apa gunanya?

Namun di satu sisi ada dorongan dari diri masing-masing yang merasa bahwa kita tidak bisa menahan rasa rindu itu lagi...Dan satu-satunya jalan untuk sedikit menguranginya adalah hanya dengan mengutarakannya..

Saat saya menulis ini, pemikiran yang sudah saya tanamkan di diri saya bahwa kata-kata seperti itu sudah saya jadikan sesuatu hal yang "tabu" untuk diucapkan.. Saya sangat berhati-hati dan mencoba sebisa mungkin untuk tidak mengatakan langsung kepadanya..Karena jujur bagi saya, ada suatu tekanan tersendiri untuk saya jika saya mengatakan langsung kepadanya..Yang ada di pikiran saya adalah jika saya benar-benar bermaksud mengatakannya maka saya seharusnya melakukan sesuatu untuk membuktikannya..Dan jika saya tidak bisa membuktikannya maka sebaiknya simpan saja..

Jika anda mmbaca postingan saya sebelum ini, sebenarnya yang dimaksud dengan serangan tersebut adalah perasaan ini...

Namun saya tetap akan mencoba untuk menahannya dantidak berbicara langsung kepadanya..

Jujur kali ini cukup berat untuk benar-benar menahannya..Jadi saya memutuskan untuk mengatakannya lewat blog ini..

Hey there..I Miss You..

Sepenggal cerita

Selesai sudah 1 semester pertama saya di negeri kincir angin ini..Ya, saya baru saja menyelesaikan ujian terakir saya di semester ini..Dan saya tidak ingin memikirkan hasilnya saat ini...Untuk menjalani ujian disini cukup berat, perbedaan cara menjawab, dan ekspektasi dosen sangatlah berbeda jika dibandingkan dengan Indonesia..

Namun marilah kita lupakan sejenak hal akademis dan menikmati waktu luang beberapi hari ke depan..

Hari ini adalah hari pertama waktu luang tersebut..Dan yang terjadi adalah, hal yang membuat saya termotivasi untuk belajar selama ujian kemarin malah memberikan "serangan" kepada saya..Mungkin ini hanya sebuah foto, namun objek di dalam foto tersebut mempunyai arti khusus bagi saya..Dan beliau sanggup mengangkat sekaligus menjatuhkan saya pada saat yang bersamaan..

Sebenarnya sangat memungkinkan untuk segera menghubunginya melalui semua teknologi yang ada saat ini..Jarak merupakan hal yang perlu diperhitungkan jika hanya untuk berkomunikasi..Namun hal yang mencegah saya untuk melakukannya sangatlah beralasan..Mungkin ada beberapa sahabat saya yang benar-benar mengetahui tentang alasan ini..dan mungkin ada juga yang bertanya " apa sih alesannya?"

Saya mohon maaf jika saya tidak bisa menceritakannya di blog ini..terlalu panjang dan rumit..

Saya hanya berdoa bahwa apa yang saya tangkap dari pernyataan waktu itu dari beliau adalah benar adanya, bukan hanya kesalahpahaman saya akan pernyataan itu dan akhirnya membuat saya melakukan kesalahan lagi..

Saat ini tidak ada yang bisa saya lakukan..

Nikmati saja "serangan" ini..

Merantau

5 bulan sudah terlewati semenjak keberangkatan saya pertama kali ke negri kincir angin..Memang belum terlalu banyak hal yang saya lewati disini..Namun satu hal yang saya rasakan adalah sekecil apapun hal yang telah dilewati, saya harus jujur bahwa semuanya terasa lebih berat..

Saat kita merasa kehilangan arah, saat kita merasa bahwa kita sendirian..Berat rasanya..Memang benar adanya bahwa semua yang saya lakui disini, saat ini pada nantinya akan menjadikan saya seseorang yang lebih baik ( Insyaallah )..

Seberapa besarpun keinginan saya untuk bisa melupakan semua kehidupan saya di tanah air, sangat sulit untuk merealisasikannya walau hanya sesaat..Karena ada saja sesuatu yang akan membuat saya teringat akan tanah air..

Keberangkatan saya untuk menimba ilmu disini pun bukan tanpa hambatan yang berarti..Saya masi mempunyai sesuatu yang harus saya selesaikan di Jakarta..Dan ternyata keadaan disini pun tidak berjalan sesuai dengan apa yang saya rencanakan..

Jujur saat ini, saat saya menulis ini, saya sedang berada di titik rendah kehidupan saya..Saya merassa terlalu banyak tekanan yang harus saya hadapi, namun saya kehilangan arah dan tujuan..

Tulisan ini mungkin terlihat seperti tulisan anak manja yang tidak kuat untuk bertahan melawan tantangan di dunia luar, jauh dari kehidupan yang dikenal.. Saya tidak mengeluh...Dan tulisan ini bukanlah keluhan..

Namun terkadang saya memamng harus menuliskan sesuatu hanya untuk berusaha mencoba meringankan beban pikiran saya..

Saya mungkin tidak bisa menuliskan secara detail apa saja hal-hal yang membuat saya tertekan..Karena tidak akan ada gunanya...

Yang saya tau saat ini adalah bagaimana saya harus memanfaatkan segala kesempatan yang ada sebaik mungkin, tanpa ada pihak yang dikecawakan..